Friday, October 24, 2025

Choice Living

March-April 2025
How To Eat an Elephant (one step at a time)

Quotes To Live By...

"Always read something that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it."  -- P.J. O'Rourke, Comedian

"Let us now become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up." -- Galatians 6:9

Note: This is from the newsletter Brandon Lau has been sending me.  I met him when the Tanabe house was up for sale and he was having open house.  (Ross and Erin wound up buying the house.)  I was trying to see if he could email it to me instead of mailing a paper copy, but I'm still getting in the mail though he apparently was going to see if he could arrange it.

Thursday, May 15, 2025

Quotes (from the Magnets USA calendar)

December 2020 - Take chances, make mistakes.  That's how you grow.  Pain nourishes your courage.  You have to fail in order to practice being brave.  -- Mary Tyler Moore

Note (5/15/25) - Brandon Lau (Ross's realtor) has been sending me a magnetic calendar every year.  Each month has a memorable quote.  So before I toss it, I decided to post it. (I'm now tossing the Quotes 2021 calendar that I found in an unopened envelope in the divider.  He has also been sending me the Choice Living newsletter.)

Friday, August 16, 2024

20 of the Most Popular Quotes of All Time

Philosophers, scientists, leaders, artists — all of these and more have spoken words that echo through the years. Whether we’re looking for encouragement or the strength to get through a tough day, the right advice can make all the difference. Of course, some words have more staying power than others, whether due to the inspiring figure behind them or how deeply they resonate with us on a personal level.

Though the internet has made it easier to stumble on quotes that are inaccurate, misattributed, or just plain made-up, the quotes gathered here are verified morsels of wisdom that have survived the test of time. Savor each piece of insight, and see which ones stay with you.

The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
-- Lao Tzu

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
-- Franklin D. Roosevelt

There are always flowers for those who want to see them.
-- Henri Matisse

You must do the thing you think you cannot do.
-- Eleanor Roosevelt

Well-behaved women seldom make history.
-- Laurel Thatcher Ulrich

You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.
-- Wayne Gretzky

The time is always ripe to do right.
-- Martin Luther King Jr.

If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.
-- W.E. Hickson

Whatever you are, try to be a good one.
-- William Makepeace Thackeray

That which does not kill us makes us stronger.
-- Friedrich Nietzsche

Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.
-- Helen Keller

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.
-- Maya Angelou

Action is the antidote to despair.
-- Joan Baez

Speak your mind — even if your voice shakes.
-- Maggie Kuhn

The way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain.
-- Dolly Parton

The most difficult thing is the decision to act. The rest is merely tenacity.
-- Amelia Earhart

Fear is stupid. So are regrets.
-- Marilyn Monroe

Every moment is a fresh beginning.
-- T.S. Eliot

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.
-- Steve Jobs

Genius is 1% inspiration, 99% perspiration.
-- Thomas Edison

Tuesday, July 30, 2024

the little things

For many people, the journey to achieve and enjoy happiness is ongoing. But while deep contentment and satisfaction may take a while to develop and recognize, happiness also arises in a more spontaneous version: joy. Joy is all around us. Joy feels good, connects us to life’s everyday richness, and strengthens our capacity to experience enduring contentment.

Joy is an ephemeral spark and guidepost found in simple and surprising places. Many kinds of small exchanges and little things can make us feel free, lifted, and joyful. A surge of bright joy might fill our hearts when we hear a favorite song, catch a glimpse of a firefly’s ethereal glow, taste delicious food, or laugh with a loved one. Noticing and experiencing joy in our daily lives is an enlivening, fun, and illuminating practice. Some say individual moments of joy are actually the essence of the abiding happiness we seek.

Over time, acknowledging and savoring the joy we find in the little things can help us build a happy, grateful, and full life. In these 16 quotes, renowned teachers, athletes, poets, and others celebrate the simple sources of joy.

Perfect happiness is a beautiful sunset, the giggle of a grandchild, the first snowfall. It's the little things that make happy moments, not the grand events. Joy comes in sips, not gulps.
-- Sharon Draper

The happiness of life is made up of minute fractions — the little soon forgotten charities of a kiss or smile, a kind look, a heartfelt compliment, and the countless infinitesimals of pleasurable and genial feeling.
-- Samuel Taylor Coleridge

Something as simple and ordinary as drinking a cup of tea can bring us great joy and help us feel our connection to the Earth … Drinking a cup of tea is a pleasure we can give ourselves every day.
-- Thích Nhất Hạnh

I still get wildly enthusiastic about little things … I play with the leaves. I skip down the street and runagainst the wind.
-- Leo Buscaglia

In the sweetness of friendship, let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.
-- Khalil Gibran

The things that I see as I walk along the streets — a little flower that blooms in May, a lovely sunset at the end of a day, someone helping a stranger along the way — that's heaven to me.
-- Sam Cooke

Each moment and whatever happens thrills me with joy,
-- Walt Whitman

There's something about putting on a new pair of shoes or a new shirt that gives you a new joy.
-- DeAndre Hopkins

They were content with each good day as it came, taking pleasure in every meal, and in every word and song.
-- J.R.R. Tolkien

There is not one little blade of grass, there is no color in this world that is not intended to make men rejoice.
-- John Calvin

The sun looks down on nothing half so good as a household laughing together over a meal, or two friends talking over a pint of beer, or a man alone reading a book that interests him.
-- C.S. Lewis

With coarse rice to eat, with water to drink, and my bended arm for a pillow — I have still joy in the midst of these things.
-- Confucius

When you get the perfect parking space, hear your favorite song on the radio, approach a light that turns green, or find an empty seat on the bus or train, say thank you. These are all good things that you are receiving from life.
-- Rhonda Byrne

And joy is everywhere; it is in the earth's green covering of grass; in the blue serenity of the sky.
-- Rabindranath Tagore

I am convinced that we, as adults, must constantly cling to, affirm, and celebrate with our children those things we love; sunsets, laughter, the taste of a good meal, the warmth of a hickory fire shared by real friends, the joy of discovery and accomplishment, the constant surprises of life.
-- Eliot Wigginton

I don't have to take a trip around the world or be on a yacht in the Mediterranean to have happiness. I can find it in the little things, like looking out into my backyard and seeing deer in the fields.
-- Queen Latifah

Saturday, September 19, 2020

The two most important days in your life

My daughter Charlotte asked me who my favorite baseball player in the Hall of Fame was--and, after explaining that none of the current or recent New York Mets were in the Hall--I told her my favorite was Jackie Robinson. I chose Jackie not because of the ball player he was, though obviously he was an excellent one. I chose Jackie for the person he was, and for the influence he had on others, and on the world.

Jackie Robinson said: "A life is not important except in the impact it has on other lives."

Mark Twain said: "The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why."

These are two of the most powerful quotes I've ever read, and I try to live by both every day. I believe I was born to help build a more "likeable" world for my children, my family, and those who I affect through my writing, speaking, teaching, and leading. I believe I was born to help my children and others become more transparent, authentic leaders who put others' needs first.

-- Dave Kerpen, Inc., 7/8/13 (also Super Quiz, 9/18/20)

Monday, August 24, 2020

a learning opportunity

The real destroyer of our peace of mind isn’t an external weapon or enemy, but our own destructive emotions. Neither our friends nor even the Buddha provide an opportunity to practice patience in the way that a hostile person does. And in so doing, an enemy can become our teacher.

Dalai Lama, 8/20/20

Wednesday, July 22, 2020

55 quotes used by Steve Cohen

“Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind” – attributed to Dr. Seuss and FDR presidential advisor Bernard Baruch

“There’s no right way to do the wrong thing” – Unknown.

“If you don’t ask, the answer’s always no” – Pat Croce

“I can play the music, but I can’t make everybody dance.”

“I like to read the actual papers because you see stuff you’re not looking for. “ Mayor Bloomberg

“Most people are going to swear by you, some are going to swear at you.” – Steve’s dad

“Be more concerned with your character than what you’re doing.” – John Wooden

“The gum was losing its flavor.” – Steve Cohen (original)

He said this in response to when I asked, “Why did you want to get into TV?”

“I’m a diamond, I’m forever.”

Steve talking about why he keeps up with people

“I’m not a crook.” – Richard Nixon

Steve referenced this quote when he did air quotes. It’s important to always be skeptical of our leaders.

“Insecure people reinvent themselves and secure people evolve.” – Madonna

And then Steve says, “Which isn’t meant to be a diss to the author of ‘Reinvent Yourself’”

“Insecure people network and secure people offer their friendship.” – Steve Cohen (original)

“What’s the world’s largest microphone? A telephone.” – Steve says this is “an old saying”. But pick up the phone and call people.

“The slightest good deed is better than the greatest intentions.” – John Wooden (basketball coach who Steve says is a great influence on him)

“Do it anyway.” – Mother Teresa

Matt Lauer once said he got 6 Christmas cards when he worked in local TV and the next year he got 200.

“You don’t just want something read, you want it spread.” – Unknown. The difference between a good podcast and a viral podcast.

“Something remarkable is just that. It’s Re- Mark-able.” – Seth Godin. (How to get something spread).

“There’s a difference between excellent and remarkable.” – Seth Godin?

“The details separate the good from the great.” – Unknown/Steve Cohen (original)

“We have the best ingredients. We have the best food.” – Wolfgang Puck

“Things work out best for those who make the best of the way things work out.” – John Wooden

“No matter what happens, I say, ‘Good.’ I broke my leg. Good. I can use the other leg.” – Jocko Willink

“There’s no right way to do the wrong thing.” – LA County Jail quote in a documentary about the bloods and the crips

“That’s why I’m here” – James Taylor

“I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.” – Bruce Lee

“If you can dodge a wrench, you can dodge a ball.” – From the movie Dodgeball

“If you’re dreams aren’t bigger than yourself, you’re not dreaming big enough.” – Ava DuVernay

“Good news is never late” – Steve Cohen (original)

“Never let a temporary inconvenience get in the way of permanent improvement.” – Unknown.

“If I’m going after Moby Dick, I bring tartar sauce.” – Steve Cohen (original)

Talking about going after big name guests

“Take a chance, Columbus took a chance” – Steve Cohen (original)

“All leaders deal with hope.” – James Carville

“Hope breeds peace.” – Confucius

“I really enjoy when people stop me and they say I’ve helped them and I really inspired them.” – James Altucher

Steve remembering when he met me

“There’s no such thing as a slow newsday only lazy reporters.” – Steve Cohen (original)

“You have to make what’s important interesting.” – Steve Cohen (original)

“Let’s get ready to rumble.” – Michael Buffer

“Life’s a marathon, not a sprint.” – Dr. Phil

“How do you get people to a party? Invite them early. Invite them often. Be a good host.” – Steve Cohen (original)

“A stitch in time saves nine” – Unknown

“Those who know you best should love you most.” Steve Cohen (original ?)

“When I got three rejections, I said, ‘Oh great, only 96 more to go.’” – Seth Godin

“If you don’t have time to do it right the first time, when do you have time to do it over again?” – John Wooden

“Champions do everyday what losers do only occasionally” – Mike Tyson

“Everyone’s got a plan until you get punched in the face.” – Mike Tyson

“Successful people focus on the flowers and not the weeds.” – Denis Waitley, author of The Psychology of Winning

“You got to get along to go along.” & “Persistence beats resistance”

Talking about dealing with hostility at work

“Try harder” – Avis

“I’m not new to this. I’m true to this.” – Unknown

“I’d rather tame a wild horse than motivate a mule.” – Unknown / Steve Cohen original

“When Siegfried and Roy were attacked, everybody was like, ‘That tiger went crazy.’ That tiger didn’t go crazy. That tiger went tiger.” – Chris Rock

“Be a no limit person.” – Wayne Dyer

“People want to be around people who are positive. People want to be around people who praise you. People want to be around people who look for the best in other people.” – Richard Branson

-- James Altucher, 5/21/18

Monday, June 01, 2020

That's Life!

as explained by Calvin and Hobbes (or Calvin and Susie)

Tuesday, April 07, 2020

when everything seems to be going wrong

You know great things are coming when everything seems to be going wrong.  Old energy is clearing out for new energy to enter.  Be patient!

-- Idil Ahmed

Tuesday, February 05, 2019

Looking behind

Looking behind, I am filled with gratitude.

Looking forward, I am filled with vision.

Looking upwards, I am filled with strength.

Looking within, I discover peace.

Apache prayer

Monday, December 31, 2018

change one word

As adults, we spend a lot of time talking about all of the things that we have to do.

You have to wake up early for work. You have to make another sales call for your business. You have to work out today. You have to write an article. You have to make dinner for your family. You have to go to your son’s game.

Now, imagine changing just one word in the sentences above.

You don’t “have” to. You “get” to.

You get to wake up early for work. You get to make another sales call for your business. You get to cook dinner for your family. By simply changing one word, you shift the way you view each event. You transition from seeing these behaviors as burdens and turn them into opportunities.

The key point is that both versions of reality are true. You have to do those things, and you also get to do them. We can find evidence for whatever mind-set we choose.

I once heard a story about a man who uses a wheelchair. When asked if it was difficult being confined, he responded, “I’m not confined to my wheelchair—I am liberated by it. If it wasn’t for my wheelchair, I would be bed-bound and never able to leave my house.”1 This shift in perspective completely transformed how he lived each day.

I think it’s important to remind yourself that the things you do each day are not burdens, they are opportunities. So often, the things we view as work are actually the reward.

Embrace your constraints. Fall in love with boredom. Do the work.

You don’t have to. You get to.

-- James Clear / This article is an excerpt from Chapter 10 of my New York Times bestselling book Atomic Habits. Read more here

Tuesday, December 25, 2018

Every day

Handle things with gentleness, optimism

1. Every day is a blessing from God. Do not waste it. Do something positive; not just for yourself but for others, too.

2. Love is the glue that keeps a relationship together. If it is removed, the relationship starts falling apart.

3. Kindness is a gift we all possess. It becomes powerful when we use it.

4. Always handle things with gentleness. This way, fragile things like friendships won’t be damaged or broken.

5. Anger is a human reaction. It usually happens when we don’t have our way.

6. Forgiveness is a godly trait. It shows grace, mercy, and compassion.

7. We all make mistakes. This is how we learn.

8. Look ahead to life with optimism. Do not dwell in the past, but learn from it.

Clarence Chun

Kalihi

-- Star Advertiser, 12/23/18

Monday, August 20, 2018

Quotations

Provide the one word missing from the quotation. (e.g., “I came, I saw, I ____.” Answer: Conquered (Julius Caesar).)

FRESHMAN LEVEL

1. “That which does not kill us makes us _____.”

2. “It does not matter how slowly you go, so long as you do not ____.”

3. “If you’re going through ____, keep going.”

4. "Don't cry because it's over, ____ because it happened."

5. "You only live once, but if you do it ____, once is enough."

GRADUATE LEVEL

6. “The _____ life is not worth living.”

7. "When you cease to ____, you cease to live."

8. “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t ____.”

9. "No one can make you fell inferior without your ____"

10. "I find that the harder I work, the more ____ I seem to have."

PH.D. LEVEL

11. “It is really clear that the most precious resource we all have is ____.”

12. “The secret of getting ahead is getting ____.”

13. “_____ is what happens while you are busy making other plans.”

14. "Imagination is more important than _____."

15.  All our _____ can come true if we have the courage to pursue them."

-- Star Advertiser, August 18, 2018

Friday, January 26, 2018

sit still for a moment

There’s a practice so simple that many people will discount it as not worthy of trying.

They’ll miss out on the transformative power of that very simplicity.

The practice is this: Sit still for a moment, and just feel what it feels like to be alive. Then relax into that feeling.

Yes, I know, sitting still for a moment isn’t something we want to do right now. We got things to do, man! But just try it, for a minute. Sit still and feel what it feels like to be alive, for you, right this moment. There’s never been another moment like this particular one, and never will be again.

Saturday, December 30, 2017

slow and steady

The hard part is "steady."

Anyone can go slow. It takes a special kind of commitment to do it steadily, drip after drip, until you get to where you're going.

-- Seth Godin, 12/17/17

Sunday, September 24, 2017

little steps

There is no one giant step that does it. It's a lot of little steps. - Peter A. Cohen

Thursday, January 07, 2016

small actions

Small, deliberate actions inspired by your true desires create a life you love.

[via twitter]

Thursday, July 02, 2015

Zen Things

1.  Do one thing at a time


[via facebook]

[12/6/15]  Roy posts it again.  Apparently the original article is from Leo Babauta.  Here's a derivative article (maybe it's from Babauta too).

Sunday, June 28, 2015

good judgment

Good judgment comes from experience, and experience - -well, that comes from poor judgment. - Cousin Woodman

-- Motivational Quotes (via twitter)